Best Day Of My Life

“If you want a cure for laziness, fall in love.” – Ovid

Imagine

Let’s just be hypothetical for this whole post.

Let’s say you had enough money in the world you could have ever asked for.

Let’s say you make hundreds of thousands of dollars every minute. You literally have to give money away because you can’t have it all.

So then, what would you do in life?

You wouldn’t have a job… so then… what would you do?

First off, I’d have to get married, first and foremost. Let out all the love out of the love meter that’s been filling up since day 1.

Give wife whatever she wants, anything she wants, slave self to wife, take anything and everything, I don’t care, I love you soooo much.

Then when the love meter gets down to zero, I’d want to travel with her.

Everywhere and anywhere. Spain, Rome, France, Switzerland, Pakistan, Iran, China, Japan, Australia, Brazil, Argentina, Venezuela.

MAN. Think of ALL the places you could go.

Egypt, Algeria, Syria, Turkey, Dubai, Saudi Arabia.

Imagine just sitting in your home, and the next thing that pops into your head is the idea that you want to go for umrah. Right then, right there.

You call up all of your friends, of course they have all the money they would ever need as well.

“Hey guys, let’s go to Umrah!”

“Right now?”

“Yeah right now!”

“Hmm… uhh… OK!”

You go online, buy the tickets, and you’re off to the airport within a day or two.

How crazy would that be?

Instead of walking around like mindless zombies at school, running around constantly, worrying constantly, about whether we did good at this exam or passed this class, just to get a piece of paper that allows us to go work somewhere.

Imagine being that person who didn’t work.

Imagine being that person who had more than enough money.

What would you even do?

I’d have to go learn things.

How to paint, how to create songs, how to conduct a symphony, how to build a house, how to skydive, how to rappel off buildings, how to be a spy, how to play futbol, how to cook insanely good food.

So many skills. Imagine knowing how to do all those things, and even MORE.

Then when my wife and I decide we’ve had enough fun in this life, I’d want to have kids. SOOO many kids. All these little munchkins running around with my blood.

Teaching them all the stuff you learned in dunya. How you made this money, how to cook, how to paint, how to draw, how to play an instrument.

Taking your kids places. Showing your kids all the famous masjids.

Teaching your kids about Islam.

Teaching your kids how to beat life.

Insha’Allah I marry a woman who’s crazy enough to want all these things as well.

And now I’ll go back to sleep, just to wake up another mindless zombie.

But this will be my future, insha’Allah. This is what I want.

Visualization Du’a

I really don’t think people understand the power of du’a. Honestly.

Now let’s think about what we do when we make du’a. We sit there, usually after prayer, close our eyes, and just ask Allah (SWT) for whatever we want.

I honestly believe if you want something bad enough, insha’Allah Allah will give it to you.

So what if I told you there was a way to increase your du’a output? What if I told you that there was some crazy way of really hitting it home into your skull and heart that you want this specific thing?

There is a way.

It’s called, the visualization du’a.

Think of anything you want. Anything.

You want money? That car? That book? That shirt? That person to be your spouse?

Really, anything.

Now, let’s say for example you want lots, and lots of money.

Here’s where some of you may think twice about it, not gonna blame you, it does sound cheesy at first.

Google up some images with money. Now put those images into a word document, a powerpoint presentation, or even windows movie maker, anything.

Now you have to add statements.

Statements such as, this is what my bank account looks like, this is how much money I will have in the future, I’m a money magnet, etc. etc.

What is the point of this?

This helps your du’a unbelievably. Not only are you watching and visualizing in your head these pictures in front of you, you are also repeating the phrases that are written, all the while asking Allah for it.

But we also have to remember that nothing can honestly happen without Allah’s will. Allah gives us whatever is best for us. Not getting the thing you want was meant to befall you, because that’s what was best for you.

Just focusing all your thoughts on this specific thing or things you want twice a day, once when you wake up and once before you go to sleep, will help yourself with what you want.

Most of you are probably still second guessing, which is understandable, but it really is that easy.

If you want something so badly, you honestly, inherently want this specific thing, insha’Allah Allah (SWT) will grant you it.

You have to place your trust in Allah, 100%. If you can’t do that, then you really can’t use this visualization method.

Not only that, but you have to do your part. Whatever oppurtunities Allah throws at you, you have to take them and run with them. These things won’t magically happen, you will have to tie your camel.

As long as you make the effort, insha’Allah Allah will help you.

All it takes for you is to put your entire trust in Allah.

American Culture

Something’s wrong in America. There’s this stench, I don’t know how to put it. It’s just this weird, societal mentality.

Something is wrong.

There’s no basis for anything. No guidelines.

It’s a country built on a foundation of principles, but… no one seems to follow them.

By the time kids are in 5th grade they already understand what it means to have sex.

By the time kids get up into middle school, they might already be dating.

And by the time they reach high school, you can bet they’ve lost their virginity.

It’s true, I’ve seen it happen.

And on one occassion I was even told, “Man, I wish I had lost it when I was 16 so I could brag to all my friends.”

A nervous laughter came out of my mouth. Sure it seemed like a great lifestyle.

Party, have girlfriends, have sexual relationships, smoke all the home grown you want.

It’s attractive because it’s the lifestyle of shaitan.

I had a pretty strict viewpoint back in those days, even though I wasn’t a practicing Muslim.

But, as always, shaitan knows what we want, and if your beliefs aren’t set in stone and engraved into your mind, you will fall for anything.

Alhamdulillah I learned from my mistakes.

I honestly believe one of the hardest tests for Muslim youth in America is the actual part of being raised here, with no one to turn to, and sticking with Islam.

May Allah bless those who did not falter.

But an even greater test is when Muslims come from that lifestyle, they open up their shell, smell the fresh air of Islam, and start to follow the deen to the core.

May Allah bless them as well.

It’s hard. Coming from that kind of background, you see the world in a whole different perspective. Things that were once so easy to do, like talking to girls, ended up becoming one of the hardest things to do.

I had to filter out my personality and desires to become what Islam wanted of me. I locked certain characteristics inside a box and stored it in a safe place.

And there are people who have it even harder. Think of the converts, coming from an entire life of jahaliya to Islam. Some of them giving up drugs, girlfriends, stealing, all for the sake of Allah.

Subhanallah.

Only Islam can do that to a person.

But here’s the problem.

We’re the middle kids of two generations.

Our parents were born elsewhere, while our own children will be like us.

We’re the only generation of Islam in America to see the sheer exposure of sexuality everywhere we go.

And our parents can’t understand it.

I think this is why it’s so hard for Muslims to get married at a young age. The parent factor.

You have to agree, anything sexual in Islam has become completely taboo to talk about with our families.

Parents don’t even want to hear anything about marriage until their son or daughter has graduated from University.

If a guy goes to his parents and says, “I want to get married.” You know he wants to get married.

If a girl goes to her parents and says, “I want to get married.” You know she wants to get married.

So why the stress?

Why don’t the parents say alhamdulillah my kids didn’t come up to me and say, “I’m pregnant,” or “I’m dating this girl, I want you to meet her,”

But instead, the parents blame their kids and say “Astaghfirallah, have you been looking at the girls/boys?”

Then the kids proceed to say no and just play the whole serious marriage conversation off, they don’t want to talk about it anymore.

YES THEY’VE BEEN LOOKING. It is a man’s ultimate desire when he grows up to look for the opposite sex.

It is a woman’s ultimate desire when she grows up to look for the man that will be her caretaker.

So then, why the taboo’s? Why the hold up?

Is it money?

Honestly, if I wanted to get married in the summer when I was working two jobs, and I told my parents I wanted to get married, I honestly believe they would have been the same way.

So is it education?

Yes. It doesn’t matter to your parents if you’re making money. The first thing they want to see is your degree in hand.

That has to be the single most retarded concept I’ve ever heard.

Like I said, when a guy wants to get married, he wants to get married.

He made the money to GET married. He’s financially READY to get married, but because he doesn’t have his degree yet, his parents say you’re not ready.

A degree does not represent your level of maturity. A degree does not magically qualify you as a prospective spouse.

What qualifies you and what makes you most beautiful in the eyes of Allah is your heart, soul, and deen.

I could name off the top of my head guys who are much more mature than people who have already graduated. All it is is this mentality of being older means you’re more mature.

This might be true in some cases, but in America, you could have a 40 year old man, who is married, who has KIDS, talking about some girl’s chest size, talking about some girls rear end.

Muslim men. YES, MUSLIM MEN. You don’t believe me? Yes, it happened in Dillards.

The Prophet recommended early marriage. The Prophet didn’t recommend waiting years to get your degree, even if you had money.

I don’t think parents understand this because they’re too accustomed to how they were raised back home.

Sure they say that they had the same problems of boyfriend and girlfriend, but there was not as much sex as there is now.

I can’t go to my parents and say, “Mom, Dad, I was waiting in class for the professor and this girl sat in front of me. Her smell was intoxicating and she had the prettiest hair, she was wearing really short shorts and I didn’t want to look but I did and I couldn’t help it, but it was all I could think about. She kept flipping her hair this way and that, and every time I tried to listen to the professor I would see it out of the corner of my eye and just want to go talk to her, take her out somewhere, get to know her better, just SOMETHING.”

Why do parents wait until the problem becomes worse instead of trying to fix it before it starts? Why is marriage looked at in such a stressful light, but then when kids come home and their parents find out they’re engaged in haram, that they regret not marrying off their kids?

I don’t blame kids for falling into haram. I don’t blame them for anything they’ve done.

Our parents raised us the best way they could, don’t get me wrong, they did the best possible job they knew how to do. But coming into a new country and not learning how the world works is just asking for it.

It’s our job now to raise them on how to live in a society like this.

Insha’Allah with du’a and guidance from Allah, the taboo won’t be taboo anymore. I honestly don’t care now. The communication level I have is the same as it was in high school, and that’s definitely not a good sign.

The only way we will get anywhere in the world is if we can crack down on these non-existant cultural boundaries. If your parents aren’t going to be open-minded, you better make sure you do your part.

Leave your trust in Allah, just do your part.

Not Surprised

Please. It’s what I expected it to be.

This whole Edward thing is such a joke.

It just creates the idea in people’s minds that this person is the ideal husband.

Why?

It’s like watching a corny love movie. Let’s just say it’s one of “those” Indian movies.

Guy likes girl, girls parents reject guy, guy won’t give up, guy pleads love for his woman, guy says he’ll do anything for her, guy says i love you too many times.

But the difference is, in the Indian movies, they never really show what happens after the marriage.

Edward is different in the sense that he’s fulfilling the promise all the way. He protects her, he takes care of her.

He’s caring, generous, understanding, and always has Bella’s best interest in mind. It’s the small things, like how he always opens her door or how he composed her own lullaby that make girls all over the world swoon for him.

And I quote: “All I want is a boyfriend who will call me beautiful, not hot.”

LOL please. I’m Muslim. I’ve gone to high school. I’m not stupid.

Edward doesn’t have to worry about money. He doesn’t have to worry about kids. He doesn’t have to worry about whether or not his mother-in-law is happy. He doesn’t have to worry about problems between his woman and his mother.

So why is he so attractive? Because it’s a fake relationship.

Yes. Fake relationship.

It’s a fake marriage.

For crying out loud he’s a freaking VAMPIRE.

Stephanie Meyer is just showing you the highest peak of a relationship, except that peak lasts through the ENTIRE FREAKING BOOK.

This relationship is exactly what a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is in high school. There is no difference. All it is is “blah blah blah I love you so much, la la la let me write this song for you, let me sing for you how much I love you.”

Yeah.. NO.

He has no sense of any responsibility other than Bella being safe. That’s all he literally does.

Sure there’s that honeymoon period in every marriage where you don’t care about a thing in the world. There are tons of guys that are like this. You really don’t think Muslim guys would like their wife as much as this guy likes Bella?

We’re Muslims for crying out loud. We’ve been WAITING our entire freaking lives for one woman. It’s that point you reach when your emotions are crazy and you listen to feelings rather than reason.

That feeling you get when you want to just buy her anything she wants just because it’ll make her happy. It’s like your heart is pumping 10,000 times faster and you’re loving every second of it.

But then, you also have to understand why girls DON’T like Edward, mostly non-Muslim girls.

They like Jacob more.

Why? Because non-Muslim girls don’t really look towards the long-term. They don’t like Edward because he comes off as too much of a needy, obsessive like freak. Jacob is desired more because he’s much like the dream guy. Funny, outgoing, sweet, romantic. He’s all in one.

Edward just gets boring after a while.

Muslim girls know that there’s only really going to be one man in their life. Thus Edward is the perfect “man” because he treats her like she’s the only girl in the world who deserves his love.

The reason Edward is prized more than Jacob is the fact that Edward just loves the living hell out of Bella. Someone put some Vampire love spell into him and he’s just addicted to her like a cocaine addict.

Sure you can say they get married in the later books but it still doesn’t change any of the facts.

Muslim guys don’t even have to try to be like this kid, we’ve been channeling all that emotion and all that feeling for that one person we’re going to get. There’s no reason to try to be this guy.

Imitation is a sign of weakness. It shows you don’t have originality, that you have certain insecurities.

Not caring what the heck people think of you emits a sort of self-worth. It doesn’t really matter what you look like, it will always be on how you present yourself.

It doesn’t matter how good your looks are, because in the end if you aren’t interesting enough, people won’t be interested in you.

Believing that you’re not as cool as one guy or as daring as another guy just portrays what you think of yourself.

Don’t conform. Be who you really are.

This whole relationship image of Edward and Bella sucks. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a bad book, but it’s more of just an influence thing than anything else. Same thing happened in other books, like with Mr. Darcy and Heathcliff. Mr. Darcy was pretty cool though, not gonna lie.

But overall, Casanova FTW.