I’ve come to the realization that I can’t accept the fact that I’m going to have to wait until I get my degree to move any more forward in life.
My mind can’t process it.
I think it’s just the notion that everyone wants to be married, that we use that as our escape from reality.
Because let’s face it, reality really sucks. All your life ends up being is a 24/7 study zone, with no means of some kind of entertainment.
I can’t live with that.
I did like her, I really did. But, as always, it’s never mutual. How could it be?
Yeah yeah, focus in school, get a job, I’ve heard this a thousand times already, please don’t repeat it to me again.
People don’t really understand the different kinds of backgrounds a person could possibly come from before they decide to fully submit to Allah and leave their past.
I did my part, I asked Allah for what’s best, but in the end all it was, was a reality check.
Girls have a universal insecurity. They’ll never be ready for marriage, that’s just how they are. The thoughts come, what about all the other guys, how do I know this one is the right one, I don’t want to be hooked to someone yet, I want to enjoy my youth.
Guys struggle with the fitnah, and we gotta suck it up, we do. I’m not gonna put frosting on the cake. Life won’t be all fun and games, and you most likely will not get married early. You gotta suck it up. But most of us can’t accept that until a certain point. Either we get shot down earlier and snap back to reality, or we find out some other way.
I guess that’s where the genders clash.
What more do you have to enjoy from your “youth?” How many more guys do you “expect” to come knocking? What kind of “expectations” are you setting for prince charming?
It’s interesting when I actually hear and see some of the answers.
Yes, it’s good to have high expectations, but don’t let that be your minimum requirements. Nobody is perfect. That’s a fact, and you’re going to have to live with that. Even after you’re married you’ll come to the understanding that no matter how someone is on the exterior, until you live with them, you’ll really find out their downfalls and weaknesses, as well as their strengths.
All I’m saying is that when someone says they like you, they really actually DO like you. He picked YOU. Out of EVERYONE else. ALL those other girls, he picked YOU. He wants to marry YOU. Because he sees something different in YOU. Something that can help him. Help him.
Why the second guessing? Yes you have to do your research, that’s fine and dandy, but give the guy a chance.
I’m going to live a simple life. Apartment/house, decent money, decent job. Simple. If she doesn’t like that, then get the heck out of my way, Allah keep her in a galaxy far, far away from me.
Tayeb.
No regrets, if I could I’d do it all over again.
Maybe in a few years, no worries.
I’ve obviously gone off on a huge rant, so some of this stuff may not be as accurate as what I really believe, just trying to get these thoughts out of the head.
AllahuAlam, whatever is best.
